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Sep/08/2008 

10 Misconceptions about Intersex

Ten Misconceptions about Intersex
By Curtis E. Hinkle
Founder, Organisation Intersex International


1. Intersex means that a person has both sets of genitalia.

This is probably one of the most common misconceptions about intersex. Intersex usually has nothing to do with the genitalia of the person, much less having two sets. There are intersex people with a penis anda vaginal opening. However, there are no documented cases of a person being born with fully developed male and female genitalia. The vast majority of intersex people have genitalia that look pretty typically male or female with a small minority having atypical genitalia. As a matter of fact, the quaint, pseudoscientific term “true hermaphrodite” can refer to a person with totally typical male or female genitalia.

2. 1 in 2000 infants is born intersex.

This is one of the most common statistics given. It would be more accurate to state simply that in hospitals with gender assignment teams, 1 in 2000 infants is born with genitalia that are so atypical that the attending physician requests the help of the specialists in the team to assign a sex. Most hospitals in the world have no gender assignment teams and most intersex people have typical genitalia. One should be careful to note that even in the majority of births with
atypical genitalia, the doctor does not request any assistance from a gender assignment team even if one is available. Therefore, one can readily see that this figure gives the impression that intersex is very, very rare. It isn’t. There are so many different ways of being intersexed that it is very hard to give a statistic at this time. A more accurate estimate is given by Sharon Preves who has researched the topic of intersex very thoroughly. According to Preves, “The frequency could be as high as four percent.”

3. Intersex is about homosexuality.

The underlying reasons for pathologizing intersex and suggesting treatments which are often barbaric most likely are a result of homophobia. However, there is nothing about intersex per se that would cause one to state that intersex and homosexuality are the same issue or that they are directly related. There quite possibly are links but the physiological reasons are not fully understood at this time.

What is important to understand is that many intersexed people do identify as gay or lesbian. At the same time, many intersex adults find the whole issue of homosexuality irrelevant to their perception of themselves. More and more intersex people are comfortable with an intersex gender identity which they feel is more accurate in describing how they perceive themselves. The socially constructed model of eroticism offered up by many cultures which divides people into homosexual and heterosexual erases their identity. Even bisexuality which has been reluctantly accepted further perpetuates the idea of only two genders by the use of the prefix “bi” which means “both.” Actual experience has led me to realize that there are people who are primarily attracted to androgynous people, to “masculine” women or “feminine” men. And most important of all, what is theopposite sex of an intersex person who clearly states they have an intersex identity?

4. Intersex is not about gender.

To many intersex people, gender is the main issue. In many countries around the world, there are no early surgeries to “treat” intersex bodies. These people’s main issues are often based on not being able to fit into either gender or growing up with a body incompatible with the gender in which they were raised.  The very theories used to support mutilating intersex bodies both surgically and hormonally are based on notions of gender which have been proved to be unreliable. According to the theories often espoused by followers of Dr. John Money, gender is merely the result of social
factors. We have very reliable proof that this is not true. Many other factors are involved that are not simply social. The individual is the best source for determining their identity – not someone looking at them from the outside.

Intersex is not just about our bodies but also about how we perceive ourselves within those bodies and gender identity is a crucial part of everyone’s identity. To erase the importance of gender to the individual intersex person is to reduce that person to only the physical aspects of their body, neglecting the more important part of the equation, their own perception of that body and themselves, as opposed to how other’s perceive them.

5. Intersex is part of the transgender movement.

No. Whereas individuals who are intersexed might identify as transgender, the opposite is not true. Most people who are part of the transgender movement are not intersexed. To include intersex under the umbrella term “transgender,” overlooks our specific needs which often are medical reform, legal issues concerning which gender we are, health issues specific to intersexed bodies and more importantly, the fact that most intersexed people are not trans. Many are perfectly happy with being men or women and more and more of us are quite happy being simply intersex and find the notion of trans totally foreign to our identity because we are rejecting binary gender categories altogether and the prefix “trans,” just like the prefix “bi” mentioned earlier, keeps the binary well intact.

6. Only true hermaphrodites are real hermaphrodites.

This is as silly as saying there are true males and pseudomales. The whole idea of dividing intersexed people into true hermaphrodites and pseudohermaphrodites is just another desperate attempt to keep the arbitrary binary gender categories intact. According to this pseudoscientific terminology, only people with gonadal tissue of both
“official” sexes are hermaphrodites. Choosing only testicles and ovaries as the indicator of one’s true sex has been
totally dismissed by modern science. There are women born with no ovaries, men born with no testicles and their true sex as they perceive it is often clearly that of a man or a woman.

7. Transsexualism is not an intersex condition.

We don’t know. The definition for Transsexualism can lead one to think so because it is so intricately bound to the diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria that one is left with the impression that it is a mental disorder. The fact that many infants born intersexed reject their sex assigned at birth would cause a reasonable person to wonder if in fact all cases of Transsexualism are simply a mental phenomenon. Is the intersexed person merely delusional about their true sex?
Should they just try harder and get over the “Gender Dysphoria?” I find it more likely that the medical personnel are the ones that are delusional in thinking that they can determine what sex an intersexed infant is without asking first. The Organisation Intersex International maintains that all persons born intersexed should have the right to speak for themselves and this includes those who were assigned the wrong sex. To view us through the lens of Gender Dysphoria
simply silences us once again, making our problem a mental one and not a societal one. The delusion and mental pathology are in the society at large which feels the need to determine one’s true sex based on genitals and to stigmatize individuals who do not fit into neatly packaged gender stereotypes.

8. The intersex movement is an identity movement like other GLBT movements.

No. The Organisation Intersex International campaigns for full Human Rights for all people born intersexed and one of those rights should be the right to selfidentify. The intersex movement should include us all whether we identify as a man, woman or simply intersex, and regardless of sexual orientation.

9. Most intersex people were assigned female.

From personal experience, I have not found this to be the case. Many intersexed infants assigned male are often overlooked and the parents are simply told there is some work necessary for proper urination or that a testicle has not descended, etc. When one reads about all the various ways of being intersexed, one realizes that an intersex person is just as likely to be assigned male as female.

10. Intersexuality is a condition which can be cured.

Intersex people have health problems just like everyone else. Mutilating our bodies is not a cure. It is simply barbaric. Being a male or a female is not in and of itself a health problem but there are health problems specific to females and males. This is also true of people born intersexed. To view intersex as a condition which can be cured only further justifies the barbaric medical practices we are often subjected to, such as mutilating surgeries, hormones which may be contrary to our own core identity and psychological treatments for not wishing to comply with the barbaric treatments. Intersex rights are Human Rights and all people born with an intersex condition should have all the rights granted all other people. This is the mission of the Organisation Intersex International.

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Aug/23/2008 

Humanity's true colours



Only Pink and Blue?
Humanity's true colours
By André Lorek
Founder of GendersInX
Board member of OII-Canada
© 2008

Even before a human being is born, they are put into categories relegating them to a set of colours determined by a standardized, but arbitrary, system. It is not anyone in particular who makes this decision. It is the system which determines the category.

As a foetus, we are scanned to check out if we are doing well and yes, whether we are male or female so that we can clothe our dearest in the announced colour. The sex is of the foetus is announced as if it is only in passing or some additional information that the tests reveal. The tests were performed because we really want to have healthy children, vibrantly reflecting all the tones of the world.

As we come out of our self-centeredness normally attributed to childhood, we find that the world is really a hurtful place. We adhere to our parents in the hopes that they will protect us from all the evil that exists for it is during our childhood that we learn about good and evil, about feeling good and feeling bad, pleasure and pain….in essence the wonderful things and the dreadful things. Later we start to grasp colours, that most things are in between the white and the black. We find ourselves being relegated to a certain colour, a pink or a blue, despite whether we feel we were rightfully labelled.

From infancy on, we are taught to see the emotional world through colours such as a cowardly yellow, a depressed blue, an enraged red, a sickly or jealous green and a haughty purple. Later we refine ourselves and emotional hues come out of these like lilac or tan and we find ourselves re-evaluating the world which we felt as a limitation. Another world of emotions appears within us where there are no set standards and this frees us to discover them for ourselves within our own experience.

As far as outward looks are concerned, we have a nice variety of tones. Hues of white, dark brown, black, pink, yellow and red all combine to form what we call humanity. The intermixing of these tones of skin and emotions are the embodiment of a vast variety of cultures and ethnicities, each giving us well rounded characteristics. Living in a metropolis of all these colours gives a person a glimpse of what would be if all this would be accepted, of how rich we would be.

Colours emotionally move us, rule us, direct us and box us in. But they can give us freedom and allow us to express ourselves, our identifies and what sustains us and challenges us at the same time. We are under the colour of a territory, of a country and of the world as a whole. Each different country has a painted flag that includes a tone for the representation of the people and of the land. Every four years, the multicoloured Olympic Rings represent all the people in a sport and the entire event celebrates colours of every hue except for those individuals not in the pink nor the blue.

Yes, the representations of blue and pink are the only colours allowed and this is a good measure of how far humanity has come. All that we are taught from childhood on stops when organisations made up of differently coloured people both internally and emotionally decide what colours are acceptable.

Here, we the children of the world, learn a new  word to which comes the ugliest of colours: discrimination.

Out of all the vibrant tones of civilisation, it is hard to accept that this is a representation of humanity's true colours. How can pink and blue possibly represent all the colours of humanity?

It is time that the all genders and all ethnicities be honoured and treated with the same dignity and it's time that intersex people be considered part of the human family.

Our time has come.
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Aug/23/2008 

Lost

Somewhere between you and me, there is a place we can call home.

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Jun/18/2008 

GendersInX.org Newsletter July 9th, 2008

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On this date of July 9th, 2007, GendersInX (GIX) opened it's doors and since then we have had many come in and take a gander on the goings on. GIX had gone through some graphical changes and recently some minor structural changes to always compensate for the growing number of people coming in.

In GIX we tend to put things into a positive light and the members there do actually care about everyone. I know I am biased, but it's the place to be to put a positive spin on issues that are dear to people, All there all have a chromosome condition and they freely discuss their challenges so that you all can see that you definitely are not alone in your difficulties.
 
We will be publishing another GIX NewsLetter hopefully every three moths or less if more articles come in. If you would like to submit something that interested you and would like to share, please contact me and I will see that the article will be viewed.

Andre
Founder of GendersInX
Andre@GendersInX.org

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Klinefelter's?  Are you or did he assess us right?  What about the symptoms?
 
In the end, those of us who have the XXY are up against the tired old definitions that pertained to a very small group of similarly affected males. KS - Klinefelter's Syndrome.  As a result we are lumped with them or if we don't quite fit than we have a lot of trouble ahead since Doctors tend to look for congruence rather than a range of possibilities.
   
For most of my life, KS was never broached by my doctors because I was obviously bright, fairly strong, and quite unwilling to discuss my psychological state with them out of fear of where they'd go with it.

Today, I/we still find it difficult to get Doctors to pay attention to the possible effects of our XXY condition.  It's often
hard to get them to look at our genitals let alone order tests for hormone levels or other endocrine functions because "you don't fit the profile".
    
The real problem with intersex in general and XXY in particular is that none of these conditions are symptomatically straightforward. Each has condition has a broad range of possible symptoms that may or may not affect a given individual at a given time. While we probably would have benefited from Testosterone Therapy in our early years -
the state of that therapy in the 40's and 50's might have been worse than the soft teeth and immune deficiencies we experienced.
     
Another aspect that tends to be overemphasized is the rabid binarism of parents of KS children. It would seem that the latest studies connecting a greater "femininity" in XXY persons with an X from the mother's side might provide a softening stance toward KS and XXY children who act more feminine.  But what we find on many KS sites is an almost feverish denial of female tainted behavior. We've got to get away from this idea that "feminine" behavior in men necessarily means a homosexual outcome.  Orientation is not necessarily tied to behavior.
     
So let's encourage parents, and doctors toward a wait and see attitude while maintaining a close watch on the various shortcomings that may develop concerning hormones, and the general physical well being of our young friends with XXY.
 
Tom/Ms.G
Member of GendersInX.org


My Bichon Frisé has a DSD (Disorder of Sex Development)
by Curtis E. Hinkle

I am the proud adult companion of a cute little Bichon Frisé named Sensen. When Sensen was just a few weeks old, I was told that s/he was a boy. To my astonishment no one could tell Sensen from a girl. He was a big white puff ball with coal black eyes and a very feisty, endearing temperament. I began wondering if perhaps there were some sex development issues that needed to be dealt with and took him to the veterinarian. To my dismay, he was diagnosed as being afflicted with a DSD and more specifically cryptochordism. He had no balls. He was defective, not worth much really. Should have been eliminated from the gene pool before birth. But to me he was very special.

Well, I was confused. Was s/he really a boy? Or a girl? Or what? What sex should I raise Sensen as. What was the most likely gender identity that s/he would grow up to be or would s/he be a boy if I simply treated him like a boy? These questions haunted me for weeks. I did not want to have a little companion with gender issues and this disorder needed to be fixed so that I was sure what color leash to get and whether to put bows in his/her hair.

The veterinarian informed me that depending on the underlying cause of the cryptochordism, the gender could vary. It could be that s/he was afflicted with the disorder of sex development known as androgen insensitivity syndrome and have a female identity. However, it could be that what we were dealing with was another disorder that would actually make Sensen act like a boy even though s/he really wasn't.

Now this confused the hell out of me. How could my little companion act like something s/he wasn't? Should I make him/her act like what s/he really is? The vet informed me that in such cases s/he could mount other females but for me not to worry about it because s/he would not be able to reproduce and the other females probably would not care. But that did not answer my question. If s/he is acting like a male but is really a female, how do I know which is the real Sensen?

The veterinarian realized that such questions were of great concern to me as the adult companion of Sensen and decided to run a battery of tests to determine the true sex. It never dawned on us to deal with the possibility that maybe Sensen was intersex and might not really agree with any male or female category. We just assumed that all animals are male or female and by running tests we will know which one they really are and therefore ease any discomfort that might be associated with uncertainty or ambiguity.

Well, to my amazement before I got the tests back Sensen was mounting Chocolat my beautiful little Chocolate Persian companion and I was totally stunned. I thought that it was just his sex that had not developed. Now I was faced with a real deviant who was attracted to cats. I quickly called the vet and told him to stop all tests. I did not want any more information. Sensen had answered all my questions. He was just a deviant, pure and simple. But he is adorable and I love him rotten.

--
Curtis E. Hinkle
Fondateur, Organisation Internationale des Intersexes
Founder, Organisation Intersex International
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Sense of Community  

Can anyone say what a community is ?

In the thesaurus, a community is described as a society, a cooperative spirit and as a group of people. It’s historical roots come from communes, such as the ones that were popular in the 1960’s. It was described as a place where people gathered in a sense of co-operation and a willingness to do well by another either through physical or moral means.

 

Don’t you find it hard to come across a community and actually feel like you belong there ?

I do and I will bet that many others will agree with me. It’s hard to find a place where there is no judgements placed on you whether it’s something that you believe, have done or simply the way you are. Too many times have we seen a controversy over who you are never mind what you believe in. Convincing people in an argument is just about impossible and yet you and I both know that there is a possibility that an equilibrium can be achieved if only people would listen and honestly think about it.

 

As members in GendersInX, each of us strive to achieve a sense of belonging where judgements of a person or character is left to the outside. This is a place of refuge for most, myself included. Here we can talk about our inner most feelings and still not be embarrassed or paranoid of what others think of us. We are who we are and no amount of arguments can change that. Here, we see an unique sense of community.

 

How we achieve this is quite simple actually : we are a positive people who want nothing but to bring out the best in another by giving a bit of ourselves. 

 

Okay, I’ll admit that not everyone coming in has a positive attitude. This is something that has to be learned and we, as members in GIX (as we affectionately call it) strive to overcome certain prejudices that invoke negativity. We do this by helping each other out to see the flip side of things, we work it out by talking. In as many of us who have a sexual condition or syndrome, we can easily put blame on things that we have no control of. What if we took responsibility of ourselves and start to see the good things about our conditions/syndromes or even how to better handle situations that previously have gotten the worst of us.

 

This is the foundation of GendersInX, a community of positive thinking people that look out for one another. One thing GIX is not, we are not a click. We do welcome everyone that wants to learn about other people different from them and in turn learn about ourselves a bit more. If you have/are a condition not mentioned in GendersInX.org , please do not hesitate to come in as we would like to learn about your challenges and your experience(s). We have forums dedicated to certain conditions/syndromes and more will be opened up as we grow as a community.

 

In GendersInX, you can help by growing with us.

 

Andre@GendersInX.org

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Jun/04/2008 

Silence


I have been thinking about this for quite some time. It came to me when I was sitting watching the young dancers strut their stuff up upon the stage where my daughter was in the wings waiting to take her turn with the rest of her team at a dance competition. I loved the interpretations people came up with especially those who felt the music flow through them. They wore the songs as they twisted and manipulated them to give the song life, almost like you could reach out and touch it, perhaps hold it. Like water, their flow ended when the music was over.
 

A song came up and I don’t remember if it was the name of the song, a refrain or something that I felt at that very moment. The word “Silence” came up and immediately I felt at peace, almost an exuberant peace. I thought about it a bit more as the song was playing and made a mention to myself that I have to write about this. 
 

Silence…the one thing I strived for. The reason I took up fishing, mechanics and purposely being genuinely interested in people, all for that one fleeting moment where silence is comforting and shared. It represents flow, a hum that equalizes the noise in a body, a restful place if only for the moment.
 

Silence can only come from oneself for when it is imposed, it can be a menace, a restriction to what should be spoken and shouted. It can hang on like a manacle, binding your every move, every thought and every action. It can be the result of fear, of anxiety and of values imposed upon us. It can be a dramatic end, an explosive beginning or a pause of reflection of something that has come to pass. It is used and manipulated in speech and in action, a binding of a cause and effect and a realisation of impending doom or an onslaught.
 

Not to be confused with “Quiet”, silence is powerfully vibrant, it has qualities many a person strive for and many others fear. It is something that we all need as a diet and expel as a poison. A Society’s silence is daunting, it holds it’s own values in an unspoken box that cannot be broken but only chipped away at and the missing pieces replaced.

Silence is what kept people from speaking out, from being heard and from passing on their heart felt being to another for the fear of being repulsed and put into silence once more.
 I use silence for many purposes some of which are mentioned and I look forward to seeing it as I have time to reflect, to think and to come to conclusions.

I can spend time in silence for long periods and get easily frustrated when it is broken as a passing thought has fluttered away only to be glimpsed upon at a later time but never fully felt as I initially did.

I vowed to break certain silences where man and beast have suffered immeasurable loss and it makes me angry to think that others can impose themselves thinking that they are the powerful ones, the decision makers and the rulers of all internal and external life. Those are the negative thoughts that inhabit me and it takes all I can muster to come to a positive place where silence is again my friend. 

I have help, heaps of it. I get it from others that lend their katra to me for a time so that I can once again begin to heal unknowingly to others and without presence. The essences of me that had been once screaming are now looking forward to when we can swim with each other once more for the benefit of all, carefully equalizing each other in sweet water that holds compassionate love.  

All this…
     




…in silence.
  

Andre
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Jun/04/2008 

The Man, the Woman and the Child

A lesson in self awareness

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May/14/2008 

What are Congenital Gender Variations ?

To avoid all confusion

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